Men dating older men
Society points all kinds of judgmental fingers, accusing these women of preying on impressionable young men, even labeling them "cougars." But regardless of what anyone thinks, it's clear that this is a phenomenon that is here to stay: in a recent AARP survey, 34% of women between the ages of 40 and 69 were dating younger men. These qualities can be a welcome change to younger men because women their age tend to be more insecure and sometimes manipulative.They find that older women have a lot to teach them, not just about the physical aspects of a relationship, but about relationships and life in general, and this strength and wisdom can be very appealing.When I was younger, I had to defend myself constantly to people around me.I had to convince my friends that I was making a conscious choice to date who dated even though I was legally an adult. I can fight and die for my country, but I can’t consent to fucking 30 somethings?At worst, older men dating younger women are viewed with a condescending chuckle, earning the term "sugar daddy," as if they were a benevolent father figure.
For this reason, women, as they age, are often dismissed as no longer beautiful, while gray hair and wrinkles on men are seen as marks of distinction.
The words used to describe older women in this scenario are not nearly as kind. Why is dating older men perceived as quaint, but dating older women is considered dangerous?
The reasons for this may go back to our perceptions about the value of women.
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Whether it’s calling out everyday racism/sexism/transphobia or outing an abuser, it is becoming more common to encourage calling it out into the open.