Five rules for dating after forty
And this starts with knowing how to go on first dates.
First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men.
Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’ Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . For more information, visit Currie’s page or his website, Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.
Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves.
Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, AGAIN, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner.
Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either.
Awww, how cute, but with that line, you may have just sentenced yourself to the dreaded “friend zone”.
Telling a girl how nervous you are is not going to make her attracted to you, of course she will feel sorry for you, and she will be extra ‘nice’ to you throughout the date, but don’t think for a second any of that means anything more than her display of sympathy for you.
The goal of dating is to find someone who wants what you want, and wants that with you.
Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.
Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Pity is not a strong foundation to build attraction on.
Even for the most talkative of women, this can feel a little overwhelming.