Dating a shorter guy
But if you're only into tall guys, I would urge you to think about why you'll only date tall guys.Imagine meeting a guy who said he'd only date girls with D cup boobs or larger. You'd also think his priorities were all out of whack — having big boobs has nothing to do with being a good partner, or even being a good lover or physically attractive. It's worth looking inside yourself, and seeing if height is what actually turns you on, or just what society has taught you to prize in a partner. A lot of men want to date a woman who is physically smaller than them, for the same reasons that a lot of women want to hook up with tall guys: that's how society says it should go, and it physically replicates our social ideas of the roles men and women should play in heterosexual relationships — that men should be big and powerful, and that women should be less powerful.Short men live two years longer than tall men, on average — good news for any of my fellow morbid straight women who spend an inordinate amount of time wondering if they or their partner will die first.I've encountered a lot of women who say that they only want to hook up with taller dudes because they want to feel "tiny" and like they're being "ravished" in bed.Why doesn't everyone just try to be whatever size they actually are, and just bang the hell out of each other that way?Listen, what turns you on is what turns you on, and if you can really only get a wide-on for dudes over six feet, that's a-okay.Being obsessed with men's height — in a way that you'd never obsess about any other one of their qualities — is bad for women, bad for dating, and reinforces a society that says physical traits we can't control are more important than who we really are or what we achieve.
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Trying to reconcile height disparities while boning involved a lot of crouching on unstable structures made out of stacked pillows and crawling around on tables, trying to use my D in high school Geometry to make all the angles line up. It turned out that he loved me in heels — and also, he had made his peace with his height and his body, and didn't need me to change the way I dressed or the things I liked to make him feel more like a man.
With a short dude, there's no problem — all your parts align, and you're free to get creative, instead of spending all your time just trying to get your genitals on the same visual plane. Short guys know they are short, and very few of them will demand that you make concessions about it (the ones who do are jerks, obvi).
Dating in the Early Stages Focusing on the Positives Dealing With Height Difference Community Q&A Dating a shorter guy can make some women feel a little insecure.
If you're one of those women, you may need to examine your priorities when dating a shorter guy.